Gratitude

Some days just suck.

I burn the toast. The dog saves all her farts for the long winter car ride. Flat tires, computer issues, dropped my phone in the toilet, milks gone bad, who ate the last cookie?!?

The universe appears to give me an enthusiastic middle finger as I wallow in a sea of small annoyances and disappointments. Or if I’m especially unlucky, large seemingly insurmountable problems surface to drown me in suck.

As cheesy as it sounds, on those days I’m starting to put more energy into exploring gratitude; expressing appreciation for what I have, not what I want or think I need. I work at eliminating phrases like “I’ll be ok if…”, “I’ll feel better when…” because more often than not, these “if’s” and “when’s” involve events beyond my control.

The last few weeks have been especially trying. I’m working on answering a question involving a large life change which has no clear answer. Both the “yes” and the “no” have very heavy and very different pros and cons. I am confident that either way I will be able to forge ahead and neither outcome will be fatal, but I’ve never been that great at uncertainty.

Gratitude starts with an acknowledgement that life is good and rewarding. I remind myself that I live in one of the safest and most affluent countries in the world. That I have great friends and family. That I have a job, free time, a lovely canine companion. I have enough to eat and opportunities that a lot of the rest of the world does not. And – well, I’m alive, so there’s still time to change the things I’m not crazy about. That’s pretty rad.

I try to mix it up. I journal about gratitude. I speak it aloud to myself in the car. I’m social about it: I tell good friends about what I’m thankful for; especially if that is thanking them for their support.

When I take these moments, I find that it does work. I generally have less lows, I sleep better, I find it easier to practice compassion and kindness, and I feel healthier. I’m also able to rationally approach my problems and have constructive conversations about them where I am not defensive.

For the last week, as I’ve been wrestling with that life question, I have been kicking gratitude up a notch with some trust. I wake up with the exclamation that “everything I need will be provided today” and I repeat this to myself at intervals when doubt starts to creep in. I’ve even set myself a reminder that displays that message to me in the afternoon as a reality check.

Although I still don’t have an answer to my question I am confident that it will be revealed to me in the fullness of time. Until then, I know that I will get what I need, even if it doesn’t look like what I want or what I think I need.

Try not to worry, time cures all and is one of the few things in life that is totally reliable.

4 thoughts on “Gratitude

  1. Pam

    I love this! Acknowledging my gratitude can bring me back from whatever is weighing heavily at that moment. I’m going to try the reminder on my phone! Great idea, thank you.

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  2. “Just for today, I will not worry”
    I admire your perseverance and effort to remain grateful. More than that, to remain hanging on in the face of uncertainty. I hate it and I’m bad at it. Reading your post was a reminder, a lesson, and an inspiration. Thanks! I hope an answer comes to you soon.

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    1. Why hello there! Having a bit of a fan girl moment, big fan of your blog and also your kind words.. thank you. I also hate uncertainty and cliches, but one comes to mind “progress not perfection”. All we can do is try to be grateful and some days that is a Herculean effort. Hope you remember to be kind and understanding to yourself on those days.

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  3. jonicaggiano

    I love your attitude. I too, get stressed with uncertainty. I am constantly working on giving it all up though to God. When I was younger and I would take a shower I would think God for the hot water, my arms and legs and my senses. I think I will start doing that again. Thanks for the reminder and for your blog.

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