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I’m in my 30s, educated, professional, and recovering from an 8 year love affair with an alcoholic. Jesscape represents my hope that sharing my story will hold open an empathic space for others recovering from family-related addiction issues and empower me to own my story.

Please note: I am in no way a life coach, expert, or health professional. If you are in distress or curious about life improvement, I encourage you to seek out services in your community. There is no greater investment than one you make in yourself!

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Coming tomorrow to jesscape.com:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Love shouldn’t be a hustle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Regram @conscious.talks⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #acceptance #resilience #accept #aware #awareness #selfawareness #selfdiscovery #growthmindset #knowledgeofself #emotionalintelligence #selfacceptance #innerstrength #adversity #introspection #vulnerability #mindful #innerwork #empoweredliving #selfloveclub #mentalhealthblogger #changeisgood #codependency #addiction #acoa #onedayatatime #trusttheprocess #myjesscape

I used to spend an embarrassing amount of time trying to orchestrate different reactions and actions from people. I didn’t see it as manipulation, I saw it as helping and in some cases justice. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Forcing anything out of someone is not a good thing. It isn’t allowing them to be authentic and there’s a good chance that even if you get what you’re after it isn’t meaningful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I know. It hurts like hell. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your hurt is valid. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But sometimes you need to accept the apology that wasn’t given. Your sanity and joy is worth it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #gratitude #grateful #happiness #motivation #mindfulness #positivevibes #peace #inspiration #blessed #abundance #lawofattraction #energy #goodvibes #happy #thankful #healing #abundancemindset #codependent #codependency #addiction #endthestigma #wedorecover #trusttheprocess #recoverywin #mentalhealthblogger #progressnotperfection #mentalhealthrecovery #onedayatatime #acoa #myjesscape

News to me: love isn’t going down with the ship. That’s codependency, dysfunction, and unhealthy love. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Thanks for the lesson. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Regram @theangrytherapist⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfcare #selflove #loveyourself #wellness #health #mentalhealth #beauty #motivation #healing #inspiration #happy #mentalhealthawareness #life #positivevibes #selfcarethreads #happiness #healthy #compassion #recovering #selfawareness #codependent #codependency #addiction #mentalhealthblogger #trusttheprocess #onedayatatime #progressnotperfection #onedayatatime #acoa #myjesscape

I wish we all had awareness of how our actions and words impact others. I wish we could all take responsibility for those things. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am truly sorry you have that hurt you carry around. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m sorry that the person that gave it to you has not stepped forward to claim it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Believe it or not, it is possible to let go of that pain alone. Like anything worth having it takes time, discipline, and maybe even some help. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you’re feeling stuck, don’t forget there are outside and unbiased people who can assist you in getting where you want to go. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👉 Also, don’t forget to swing by jesscape.com for more on closure. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #patience #holdon #patientlywaiting #positiveaffirmations #affirmation #patienceisavirtue #serenity #justwaitonit #onedayatatime #cmon #trusttheprocess #trustme #recoverywin #codependency #codependent #addiction #recoverywarrior #selfloveclub #adversity #overcome #persevere #progressnotperfection #trauma #growthmindset #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthblogger #acoa #myjesscape

Sis, we’re so much more. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👉 don’t forget to swing by jesscape.com this week for a post on closure⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Regram @polaroid_kiss⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #selfcare #selflove #loveyourself #wellness #health #mentalhealth #beauty #motivation #healing #inspiration #happy #mentalhealthawareness #life #positivevibes #selfcarethreads #happiness #healthy #compassion #recovering #selfawareness #codependent #codependency #addiction #mentalhealthblogger #trusttheprocess #onedayatatime #progressnotperfection #onedayatatime #acoa #myjesscape

I always thought that #closure came with a conversation. That it would be necessary to sit down with the person that hurt me in order to put down the pain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Believe it or not, that isn’t true. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Living with an addict brought me all kinds of pain. As the disease of addiction progressed, the unethical and unacceptable behaviour increased. I had a great deal of valid and justified hurt by the end of my relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I felt I deserved an apology. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One came eventually, by text, late at night.. and full of strange words. To the best of my knowledge, more than a year later, that addict is not in recovery. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That apology did not give me closure... But I got there anyway, and you can too. ❤️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #acceptance #resilience #accept #aware #awareness #selfawareness #selfdiscovery #growthmindset #knowledgeofself #emotionalintelligence #selfacceptance #innerstrength #adversity #introspection #vulnerability #mindful #innerwork #empoweredliving #selfloveclub #mentalhealthblogger #changeisgood #codependency #addiction #acoa #onedayatatime #trusttheprocess #myjesscape

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